A former colleague and I meet up on a regular basis, email each other and chat on the phone quite often.
Every time we talk she asks about my work, coaching, family and friends. She shows a genuine interest in my life. And as far and good as I know her, I can assume she is not faking it, or trying to make small talk.
That makes me wonder, why is she interested in my overall well-being when my so called friends are not?
My oldest friend always calls only to whine and complain about work, colleagues money and so on. But she never asks how I feel. And there are my friends in America. Why am I the only one, who calls, sends emails and packages? I don´t think it is because of the time difference or the distance that I never hear from them.
Why is it so difficult to let go of friendships we have outgrown? Do we cling to friendships because we are afraid of what the other person might think if we break the contact?
It is time to adjust the expectations we have towards an old friendship and start treating them as old school friends. How would an old school friend act?
And instead of having soul baring talks only doing activities together sometimes.
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Letting go of friends is being willing to feel alone/lonely. A time to look more deeply within yourself, your values and your desires. I am a mid life coach that has supported clients with this. having been through the process myself and learning from it. I prefer to see the letting go as more of a letting go energetically of the attraction I had to that kind of friendship. We can outgrow our friends and it does not mean we are 'better than' We are listening to another vibration in our lives and we cannot really respond to it while hanging on to the old vibration. The trait to work on is 'courage' and the tool to reach courage is facing our personal fears head on.
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